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The Short List, pt. 2

The Short List, pt. 2

In case you missed Part 1 of The Short List, we’re talking about how we all have a short list of people that we care deeply for. For most of us, it is a list of 5-10 people who mean the world to us and we really want to do these relationships well. Who is on your short list? Today’s conversation will be most helpful to you if you have those folks in mind.

As we begin Part 2, let me ask you a question. What does it take to have a great relationship with someone on your short list? What things do you need to do for them, and what do they need to do for you? If you actually wrote down what you’re thinking, it would quickly add up.

  • I need to spend time with them
  • I need to communicate and listen well
  • I need to extend and receive grace
  • I need to challenge them
  • I need to pray for them
  • I need to get to know their family
  • I need to help them when they need it
  • I need to …
  • I need to …
  • I need to …

I think we would all agree that these kinds of activities are necessary for vibrant relationships with our short list – but it can also feel overwhelming. So after several years of feeling like I was dropping balls on the people I loved most, I discovered that everything I wanted to do and hoped to have done for me, really fit into 3 important words.

Enjoy each other.

Care for each other.

Teach each other.

That’s it.


For me, these words function as buckets. So for instance, take the activities above. Spending time together would fall under Enjoy. Praying for each other and helping each other would fall under Care. And challenging each other would fall under Teach. But more importantly, they function as sacred reminders that I am privileged to enjoy this person as a gift from God (which for me takes precedence), care for them holistically, and teach them in a way that helps them grow. In so doing, I am blessed to be enjoyed, cared for, and taught in a way that helps me grow.

Ultimately, when we choose to enjoy each other, care for each other, and teach each other, we are simply loving each other well. But in order to enjoy, care, and teach well, we need to look at 2 words next week that will bring these 3 words to life.

Josh Rhodes
NextGen Pastor at LCBC Church
Josh is the Next Steps Director at LCBC Church, York Campus. Prior to LCBC, he served at Chestnut Ridge Church in Morgantown, WV. Josh received a Bachelor of Science in Biblical Studies and Youth Ministries from Lancaster Bible College, and a Master of Arts in Theology from Biblical Seminary. He and his wife Hillary live in Lancaster with their three children - Sephora, Levi, and Pierce.